When we make a decision, we do it based on the result we hope to obtain, and we do not look at the process that would lead us to that result. As if that result depended on a single action, and not on a set of actions distributed over time.
We also make a decision as if only the outcome depended on us, and not on a set of conditions that are completely beyond our reach and that we are completely unable to anticipate.
The only thing we have to be sure of when making decisions is that no matter what we choose, or the path we choose to follow, in each decision, something is gained and lost. We cannot make decisions hoping to have it all. Our lives are shaped by the decisions we make. This does not mean that we have control over every aspect of our lives or over the decisions we face day by day, nor over their consequences.
However, even with all this in mind, the process involved in making decisions can overwhelm us, it can become a process that causes us anxiety, uncertainty and makes us feel anxious.
When it comes to important decisions on which it seems that our whole life will depend, such as choosing a career, where to study it, what job to choose, it is very common that we consider the possible scenarios that each decision may have, making such decisions are not easy sometimes.
It is important to keep in mind that the decisions we make are made under very particular conditions. Not all of us enjoy the same living conditions, so it is not wise to equate similar decisions in different contexts. Certain conditions make a particular decision easier or more difficult to make.
Without further, we recommend you consider the following tips.
Avoid results-based thinking
To be more certain, stop focusing on the results: to a large extent, we cannot control them. If you only focus on results, which have not yet happened, the decisions you have to make will always be based on something that has not yet succeeded. Once you have made a decision, try to focus on what is happening as your process progresses. This way, you will save yourself a lot of anxiety.
We are emotional beings
When making a decision, consider how you feel about it. Don’t force yourself to take it most rationally. Recognize your emotions and decide based on them.
Limit your options
The more you think, the more possible scenarios you are going to create in your mind, which could bring you a lot of unnecessary anxiety. Try to simplify and limit your options according to your priorities and wishes.
When we need to make a decision, some (or all) of the following things can happen:
- Paralysis of analysis: thinking (analyzing, planning, forecasting, etc.) in excess leads to not acting.
- Fatigue: Making many decisions at the same time can deteriorate the quality of future decisions.
- Too much information: Having too much information coming from other people can confuse you and affect the quality of your decisions (for example, deciding based on what someone else wants or asks for, rather than based on what you want)
Get rid of the situation
Once we make a decision, it is normal to ask ourselves if our choice was appropriate, or what would happen if we had chosen another path, or we may have a feeling of regret.
The more time you spend thinking about the other options, the feeling of regret will be greater. The only thing you are going to achieve is to tie yourself more to the decision.